During anal masturbation (get more info), you pick the toy and control the pace. You can respond immediately if something feels off. But a partner doesn’t have the same cues, so you need to communicate with them about it. Because talking about sex can be so difficult, we’ve written a guide to sexual communication. Use it to make it easy to What is anal masturbation? Anal masturbation is the practice of stimulating the anal sphincter and prostate using your fingers or other items. As an introduction to the uninitiated, it is probably best to start with your own fingers to explore the area, get to know what it feels like on the outside, and then gradually start to penetrate the anus.